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How to say “no”

Good morning, money nerds! Welcome to Tuesday.

Today, I’m starting our collection of links with something that has nothing to do with money — yet everything to do with wealth. It’s a Reddit post from /r/AskDocs. And it’s just what I needed to read today. But be warned. It just might make you misty.

“My cancer lung cancer has spread to my heart. It’s over now.” [/r/AskDocs on Reddit] — “As difficult and shocking as these last few weeks have been, I regard them as positive. Only four weeks ago, I thought that the universe was a cold and cruel place. I experienced physical and mental abuse, chronic pain, and addiction. But my situation has forced a change of perspective. I see now that all our experiences, no matter how horrid, are temporary, and that we will all find the same rest and peace in the end.”

Whew. Now let’s look at some money stories, shall we?

Why you need a home inventory (and how to create one). [Women Who Money] — “If you experienced a significant loss, could you describe each item you lost? Would you recall their details and values? Even those with the best memories will forget many of their possessions when not in plain view. That’s why you need a home inventory.”

My priceless summer on a Maine lobster boat. [Outside] — “Last summer I lived alone on a tiny island in the easternmost part of coastal Maine — a region known as Down East — where I worked as a sternman on a lobster boat. I say ‘sternman’ because nobody says ‘sternwoman.’ I could count the number of female captains in the harbor on my hand — not enough to budge the traditional vernacular. I worked for one of them.”

How to say “no” (for people who always say “yes”). [NPR] — “There’s a high price for constantly aiming to make other people happy…People pleasing isn’t something that just pushovers do. Lue notes that perfectionists tend to be prone to people pleasing. The good news is that it’s a changeable habit. Here are some tips that Lue recommends.”

Today’s video comes from the always-excellent Financial Diet channel YouTube. In his 15-minute segment, Yanely Espinal (who goes by the handle @MissBeHelpful) shares five common money mistakes made by low-income earners.

That’s it for today. We’ll be back tomorrow with more great stuff for you to read and view. See you then.