It’s definitely doable.
How to engineer luck [High Agency] – “8. Delete the scoreboard – One piece of advice I find myself still thinking about five years later comes from my friend Shaan Puri: Most people have a relationship scoreboard. My score versus your score. When I do something for you, I get points. When you do something for me, you get points.
This creates two problems. First, most scoreboards stay stuck at 0-0 because both people are waiting for the other to give first. Second, the scoreboard assumes relationships are zero-sum—a fixed pie where if you get a bigger slice, I get less. If the score is 6-5 in their favor, I feel like I’m losing -1, when I’m actually +5.
Luck engineers delete the scoreboard. Give aggressively, give early, give without permission. The pie isn’t fixed—it expands when you give freely. Some people will take advantage of you, but they’ll be a rounding error compared to the incredible relationships you build. And your funeral will be jam-packed.”